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Happy New Year! Do you know your goals?
Most people have New Year’s Resolutions. Not me. I have goals!
My wedding anniversary is New Year’s Day. I will be married four years when the clock strikes midnight. I’ve known my husband Randy a total of 12 years. He’s an amazing guy, and he has the patience of a monk to deal with me. Those of you that have built your VA or Internet Marketing business this past year and have had any success know what a drain both the hours and the effort are on both you and your support system.
Randy quit his job two months ago because I couldn’t take care of both the babies and the business with any kind of integrity (or sanity) simultaneously. Instead of throwing his testosterone around and hemming and hawing about how important his job was, he researched and interviewed and got a job at the local Starbucks.
His 20 hour a week position as "barista" provides our family with:
- Extra time for us to grow the business
- Time to spend together and with the children
- Health insurance
- Stock options (with matching *swoon*)
- A 40% employee discount
- A free pound of coffee a week
- Randy can use his business degree knowledge in growing a business instead of working 80 hours a week for someone else and having to follow their rules and not being allowed to use his natural talent because it wasn’t an "in the box" approach.
This is what we call a "win win" situation. He has the background and education and resume for a management position, but he told them he just wanted to be a barista. He chose the most effective job, which for the family is the most lucrative. (Randy would like to eventually own a Starbucks. I told him that would be fine as long as I get free coffee.)
Do you have your 2007 goals written down? Do you even know what they are?
Knowing your goals is very important. Without knowing where you’re going…how will you know how to map a path to get there? You can’t. You can flail blindly, hoping the next thing you do will fit into your business model is not a solid strategy for success.
How do you know when something will get accomplished? You make it happen. There are people in this world that things just seem to "go right" for. There are others that seem to have the "bad luck" and things always get in the way of success. Want to know a secret? It has little to do with the universe "giving" or "taking" things….it has to do with you and how you see your life. Are you a person that makes things happen or are you a person that things happen to?
I’ve been both of these people. Surrounded by the drama, not knowing what tomorrow would bring I shrugged my shoulders and threw up my hands, exclaiming, "Well it’s not MY fault!" when someone questioned why I missed an appointment, stood up a date, or missed any of a number of deadlines.
I woke up one morning and realized I could not stand to be that person anymore. I looked to the heavens (I know this is cheezy, but stay with me..it’s a true story…) and said, "God, do what you need to but from here on out I’m taking control of this life."
It started to rain. Really hard, out of nowhere, buckets of rain.
While I don’t think I’m particularly important enough that me talking directly to God caused a thunderstorm, I chose to think of it as cleansing the drama from my life. From that day on, I have taken control of my life. Everything. Even the unpredictible, because by being accountable for every action I found my life looked WAY closer to the life of someone I would look at and envy in my past. You know, the put together chick with the matching shoes and purse, walking with purpose…and smiling. That was my dream.
I still don’t have matching bags and shoes. I’m not perfect in any way, but you will be hard pressed to find someone that works harder and longer to make sure there’s a lack of drama and an abundance of…well…abundance!
Many people have told me I should see "The Secret" – but I’ve had a great education in both metaphysics and the law of attraction from before my college years (just don’t ask me which college, there have been five). It started with a love of Quantum Physics after reading The Search for Schroedinger’s Cat. That book changed my life.
If the universe we have so much faith in…if the world we think is stable and steady…really isn’t…well that just opens up so much to the unknown. That means that really, how do we know when someone says "anything is possible" that they’re really telling the absolute truth? I recently saw the movie What the Bleep do we Know, and it’s a great (VERY basic) primer on Quantum Physics.
You see, religious or scientific, it’s all the same thing.
You cannot be successful with metaphysics unless you put into it the action of quantum physics.
If you prefer a religious explaination: God helps those that help themselves.
So my New Years resolution to everyone, VA and IM alike, is TAKE CONTROL and realize that you are the center of your universe. You control your life. There is hope every minute of every day that you can stand up and say "The choice for me is drama free!" Then, and this is the important bit, TAKE ACTION and make your life the one you wanted to have back when you still thought about your future in years, not in months or weeks.
Did you want to be a pilot? Then get your butt to work and make enough money for lessons! That’s what Matt Bacak did. Now he goes to conventions in HIS plane. If that’s not inspiring…I don’t know what is.
Did you want to be a dancer? Get working! I’m getting a gym membership next year for the first time in my life. I’ve never been able to afford it before. I have two kids, two dogs, a husband and a house. Oh, and no credit card debt. Why? Because I’ve been doing whatever it takes to get the job done!
